Scientists have told us what attracts us to others and how to use this knowledge in life. If you want to find out more, then you have come to the right place. Read on!
1. Copy the demeanor of the interlocutor
During a conversation, use similar gestures and facial expressions, repeat the pose of the interlocutor. This behavior accelerates the onset of sympathy, according to research.
2. Spend more time with the person you want to connect with
We are more likely to like people we know. Psychologists experimented; four girls, unknown to the students, attended classes at the university. Some came often, others rarely. Then the students were shown their photographs and asked to say who they like most. It turned out that those who were more often seen in the classroom were liked more than those who missed.
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3. Praise the other person
People associate the adjectives you praise them with your own personality. This phenomenon is called the spontaneous transfer of qualities. It works and vice versa; if you constantly speak negatively about a person, what you say about him, they begin to ascribe to you.
4. Show positive emotions
The mood of others greatly influences us. Often we unconsciously experience the same emotions as the interlocutor. Demonstrate a positive attitude to make a good impression.
5. Don’t be afraid to seem imperfect
Demonstrating a flaw or making a mistake, you show that nothing human is alien to you. Scientists discovered this by examining how mistakes affect sympathy; the experiment participants listened to a recording of the quiz. If someone answered all the questions correctly but accidentally spilled coffee in the end, they liked him more than the perfect one.
6. Focus on shared views
We are reaching to people who are somewhat similar to us. This is called the similarity attraction effect. And we especially like people with whom we have common negative traits.
7. Perceive the interlocutor the way he wants to be perceived
People want to be seen as they see themselves. When a person’s idea of us coincides with our own self-image, the relationship is developing well. We feel that we are understood, and this is necessary to establish trust.
8. Share something personal
This will help you build relationships and get to know the person better. Start with general themes (like which movie you both recently watched) and gradually move on to more personal ones. Then tell something intimate about yourself. This will create a feeling of closeness, and it will be easier for the interlocutor to trust you in the future.
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9. Let the other person tell you about yourself
Researchers at Harvard University found that speaking about ourselves, we experience pleasure comparable to the pleasure of food, money, and sex. So let the other person tell you something about yourself. That way, he will have more pleasant memories of your conversation.
10. Behave as if you like the other person
When we believe that a person is well disposed towards us, we ourselves begin to feel sympathy for him. This phenomenon is called reciprocal sympathy.
Also, when we assume that people will treat us well, we behave more warmly towards them. This increases your chances of making a good impression. If you’re not sure how the other person feels about you, act like you like them. This will make him more likely to sympathize with you.
Adapted and translated by The Cop Cart Staff
Sources: Life hacker