Fewer unjustified expectations – less frustration. Read on to find out more.
1. Don’t expect people to agree with you on everything
You deserve to be happy, you deserve to live your life the way you dream therefore, do not let someone else’s opinions lead you astray. You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of other people, just as other people do not live to meet your expectations fully. In fact, if you yourself approve of the decisions made, you do not need anyone else’s approval.
Take the risk of being yourself and relying on your intuition, even if you are shy or afraid. Don’t compare yourself to others or be jealous of their success.
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2. Don’t expect people to respect you if you don’t respect yourself
Strength is in the spirit, not the muscles. Strength lies in the presence of principles and self-confidence, the willingness to demonstrate and defend them. Understand that others will not show you love, respect, and attention until you value yourself.
It is important to be kind to others, but it is equally important to be kinder to yourself.
When you love and respect yourself, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy.
And when you are happy, you become a better: a better friend, a better husband or wife, a better son or daughter, a better version of yourself.
3. Don’t expect everyone to sympathize with you
You may feel useless and unworthy but don’t forget your value. Spend time with people who appreciate you. It doesn’t matter how well you treat other people; there is always at least one negative person who will criticize you. Smile, ignore and move on.
Sometimes people can judge you for being “different.” But it’s actually wonderful. What makes you different from others makes you who you are. And in the end, you will always find people who will appreciate you for who you are.
4. Don’t expect the other person to be the way you want them to be
To love and respect others is to allow them to be themselves.
When you stop expecting others to match your ideas about what is right, you begin to truly appreciate them.
Respect others for who they are, rather than pressuring them to change. We cannot thoroughly know another person (even though we sometimes think so). And discovering new facets of his soul, the character is always wonderful. And the more you get to know another person, the easier it will be for you to appreciate him and see his beauty.
5. Don’t expect people to read your mind
You probably know that people can’t read minds. They will never know how you really feel unless you tell them yourself. For example, your boss might not consider a promotion if you don’t talk to him yourself. And a nice guy or girl will never talk to you because you are too shy: how can he or she talk to you if you are constantly hiding from them?
It is essential to communicate with others regularly. You need to strain your vocal cords and say the first word. You have to tell people what you think. It’s simple; you need to start.
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6. Don’t expect the person to change suddenly
A common misconception is that if you take good care of someone, they will eventually stop disappointing you and change. No, it will not change. If you really want to change something in another person’s behavior, put all the cards on the table, tell everything as it is so that he understands how you feel and what you need.
You cannot change another in an instant, you shouldn’t even try. Either accept it as it is, or continue living without it.
When you try to change others, most of the time, they stay the same. But when you support people, give them complete freedom, they miraculously change themselves.
7. Don’t expect everything to be okay by itself
Be kinder to those around you because people around you can be difficult too. Every smile hides an intense inner struggle, often with the same problems as yours.
We are all endowed with the ability to push our way through adversity and adversity instead of avoiding it. Support, participation, and compliance are the best gifts in life. We get them often. We need to learn to accept them because we all share the same dreams, needs, and aspirations.
People don’t always behave the way we want them to. As the saying goes, we hope for the best and expect the worst. Remember, your happiness is directly proportional to your thoughts and your choice of how you look at things. And always remember that if people made you feel something new or taught you something new, it means that they did not appear in your life for anything, despite all the difficulties.
Adapted and translated by The Cop Cart Staff
Sources: Life hacker