5 Types Of People To Stay Away From

Sometimes a real sadist may be hiding behind a beautiful appearance.

A huge family, a good career, a distinguished education, and a stunning look are often, just a facade, an illusion behind which a cruel person is hiding. This could be a man, a woman, your boss, a coworker, or that nice guy you went on a wonderful date with. Of course, there can be no talk of any friendship or love with them.

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1. Critic

5 Types Of People To Stay Away From

Signs

The critic condemns whatever you do; your every move and every breath you take. Yes, you are doing everything wrong.

You need to understand the difference: criticizing is not the same as giving advice.

Behavior scenario # 1

You arrive for dinner 15 minutes late, without prior notice. Your other half became noticeably angry, and instead of asking why you were late or what happened, they begin to shower with accusations; “You are always late because you never think of anyone but yourself. I've been seated here for fifteen minutes now. ! And you can never come on time".

This is the perfect critic. As a rule, such a person criticizes your every move: "Are you really going to wear this?" "Why do you never ...?" "What's wrong with you?" The list is endless. You feel humiliated around a critic. Regardless of how hard you try and what you do, you never get it right.

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Behavior scenario # 2

You are late for dinner, and you don't warn about it. Your spouse is obviously upset, but instead of lashing out at you, they begin to ask you about this habit. “You seem to be running late a lot. What happened? Is there a reason for this? " This is an example of how a person tries to understand the origins of misbehavior.

Instead of blaming a specific person, he or she blames the action.

The critic may never even say anything rude to you personally. But he speaks offensively about your beliefs, appearance, thoughts. This is often due to low self-esteem and a desire to be in control. Instead of helping you break bad habits, he reproaches and suppresses you as a person.

The critic condemns the person, not his behavior. The most damaging experience a person can have is when a parent says, "You are a bad boy / bad girl," instead of saying, "You did a bad thing."

2. Passive aggressor

5 Types Of People To Stay Away From

Signs

With such a person, you feel like you have to walk on tiptoe. You never know what message he is trying to convey to you. Denial of feelings, sarcasm, questionable compliments is clear indicators that the person you are dealing with is acting passively aggressive.

Behavior scenario

You did something that upset your partner, but you can't figure out exactly the reason. You ask why they are angry (you want to understand what you did and how to fix it to avoid mistakes in the future). But don't even try because your significant other won't say anything. Most likely, you will receive answers in the spirit; "I'm fine," "I'm not angry." At the same time, this person continues to maintain a distance and by all means, show that you acted incredibly despicable.

You start to get hung up on the situation, trying to figure out what he or she really thinks, why keeps sending hints rather than saying directly. You can spend countless hours trying to read the mind of a passive aggressor by going back over and over again.

Passive aggression is a veiled expression of anger. If a person cannot just talk, but uses sarcasm as a defense mechanism, sends incomprehensible messages, or does not show his negative emotions directly, but does this only surreptitiously, you are in front of a passive aggressor.

3. Narcissist

5 Types Of People To Stay Away From

Signs

The narcissist, with all his behavior, shows that his existence is the best gift for the Universe; he knows everything, he is the best in everything and does not hesitate to remind you of this every minute. No matter how smart and interesting you are, you are far from being a narcissist.

The narcissist puts himself on a pedestal from which he looks at you.

You might feel that you are constantly engaged in some sort of rivalry with each other.

Behavior scenario

Narcissists do not want to make compromises; they feel a lack of understanding and empathy; they want to always be in the spotlight. Even when it’s your time to be in the spotlight — on your birthday or at a promotion party — the narcissist will be able to draw all the attention to himself even if it was a loud scandal.

The story of Narcissus from ancient Greek mythology helps us understand the nature of narcissism. When Narcissists looked into the water and saw a beautiful flower instead, he was surprised. After all, Narcissists really hate themselves.

They are susceptible to being hurt, and when they are, they release the anger and hatred that builds up from low self-esteem. Narcissists are ready to destroy everything and everyone around them when they feel rejected or hurt.

4. Stonewall

5 Types Of People To Stay Away From

Signs

A stone wall is a person who refuses to engage in conversation and share their feelings when problems arise. He constantly shies away from direct questions. Because of this, the other person starts to feel unimportant, unworthy of honest communication.

Behavior scenario

The stone wall never admits the problem exists. If you are attempting to speak with someone who you know refuses to be honest and open with you, it might be worth considering why you need such a relationship at all.

Having no desire to respond to your questions, such a person does not just refuse to communicate with you - he makes you feel frustrated and even angry.

This is a good tactic for political debate but absolutely unacceptable in personal life. The behavior of a stone wall is somewhat similar to passive-aggressive behavior; only he does not try to convey a hidden message to you - he doesn't think it's necessary to say anything to you at all.

5. Asocial personality

5 Types Of People To Stay Away From

If you are communicating with an antisocial type, congratulations: you got a 2 1 gift.

Signs

On the one hand, there are traits of a sociopath in the character of an asocial person; aggressive and explosive behavior, which is most often the result of abuse in childhood. At the very least, sociopaths can be empathetic. But an asocial personality cannot because he also has the psychopath's tendencies: lack of regret and empathy, a tendency to use others in his own interests, greed, vindictiveness.

We all have many different inclinations that society perceives as negative. We can even find in ourselves the characteristics inherent in antisocial behavior. Therefore, we forgive and even treat people with asocial behavior favorably, as we forgive and treat ourselves favorably.

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Behavior scenario

Remember that psychopaths are psychological chameleons who continually tap into other people's emotions. What for? To manipulate people, take charge of the issue, earn money, have sex, feed your ego, and so forth.

They are so skilled in all of this and are masters of lying that their victims are completely ignorant of what is taking place.

Resisting such psychologically predatory behavior is extremely difficult. Not surprisingly, most people refuse to believe this and accept no evidence until it's too late. In fact, the "love" of a psychopath is just a cover.

If the person you are dating demonstrates these characteristics, it’s time to think; how do you feel around him? Avoid toxic relationships, don't be afraid to say goodbye to unpleasant people, and cherish those who don't try to suppress and manipulate you.

Adapted and translated by The Cop Cart Staff

Sources: Life hacker

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