These qualities say; over the years, you not only grow up but also gain wisdom.
1. Ability for introspection
You can look at your life through the eyes of an outside observer, take a neutral position to evaluate your actions, thoughts, emotions. This approach allows you to understand your strengths and weaknesses better and decide how to move next.
You first think, and then you act. You can calculate the expediency and consequences of your actions. An infantile person lives with emotions and momentary desires. Mature – does not break down on loved ones, knows how to remain silent if a stupid conflict is brewing.
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You have learned to be grateful for what happened to you and what you managed to avoid. You’ve appreciated the people who make you happy and don’t take them for granted.
You have stopped judging a book by its cover, not in words, but deeds, and people buy formal signs and stereotypes. Teenage maximalism no longer interferes with realizing that the world is not black and white. Those around you can be different from you and remain good. Sometimes, there are several correct opinions.
5. Building boundaries
You understand what is acceptable to you in a relationship – love, friendship, work – and how far you are willing to go, what to sacrifice to keep them. And if someone violates the boundaries of what is permissible, you will act, discuss, and not pretend that nothing happened and everyone lives like this.
6. Strong moral standards
You do not view your actions through the prism of “what people think” or “and if someone sees.” A mature person has defined moral boundaries. It is not the inevitability of punishment or possible condemnation that warns him against wrong actions, but a clear realization that this is unacceptable. Therefore, he does not do things that are dubious for himself, even if no one sees or recognizes.
You are responsible for words and actions. You do not promise the impossible, do not pass decisions on to another. A mature person realizes that the quality of his life is completely his responsibility. External circumstances can make their own adjustments. But if you continue to complain that everything is bad but do nothing to change the situation, you are more of an infantile person and not a victim of circumstances.
You have learned to accept yourself for who you are, with all the advantages and disadvantages. This does not mean at all that you need to stop improving and correct shortcomings. But it is worth learning to be satisfied with yourself now, at any stage of the path to the ideal, because this road has no end, and it is a shame to spend your whole life hating and reproaching yourself.
You stopped relying only on instant results and learned to wait for the fruits of your labor. For some things to happen, it is not enough to want them – you have to work hard. And even this does not guarantee that you will achieve your goal.
You understand that no one should solve your problems. A mature person does not act at random, hoping that someone will help swim out of the abyss. To waste money on a trinket and leave the family without food, thinking that parents or friends will throw some money, is infantilism.
11. Ability to learn lessons
They learn from mistakes, but not everyone. The mature person learns from failure, recognizes similar situations, and avoids repeated failures.
12. Constructive interaction with reality
Do not run away from problems, do not close your eyes to them, and do not think that they will somehow resolve themselves. The mature person recognizes difficulties and looks for ways to cope with them.
Most of the time, you don’t see fit to lie. On the way to maturity, you surrounded yourself with people with the wrong people; you do not need to wear masks and embellish reality. If you still have to lie, a mature person is aware of why he is doing it. Trying to protect your neighbor’s feelings with lies and the desire to manipulate them is not the same thing.
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14. Ability to build relationships
A mature person realizes that he is not the center of the universe. Therefore he knows how to build equal partnerships in which he not only takes but also gives. He can be compassionate, supportive, attentive, and genuinely interested and accepts help without feeling vulnerable.
15. Realistic-optimistic view of the world
You realistically assess the situation but do not lose faith in the best and your presence of mind. A mature person understands that good things don’t happen continuously. There are also failures. But the black stripes end, especially if you don’t give up. However, pessimism and defeatism can lead to the fact that there will be no strength to rejoice even on truly bright days.
Adapted and translated by The Cop Cart Staff
Sources: Life hacker