Our children have little language at their young age, which sometimes does not allow them to identify their emotions and convey them correctly. That is why between the age of 1.5 years to 2 years, the tantrums begin continuously. Experts say that it is the way to build a healthy child and positively develop their emotional intelligence.
Our role as parents is to know the aspects that are happening to lead a child to the tantrum and help him identify how he feels at that moment.
This should be carried out in a manner that together, you can explore alternatives and give them a different perspective, allowing them to adopt an attitude towards the problem. Emotions at this age include anger, frustration, anxiety, and sadness. Observing more and knowing the child better will help us identify the feeling or emotion of the moment.
There are many types of tantrums, but we must always be aware that we are people who do actions, and those actions will have consequences. So in this post, I present tools that you can apply to prevent tantrums before they happen or control a situation that is getting out of control.
Prevention
Children don't communicate with words, and you can have the upper hand if you establish rules and routines. It will be achieved with consistency, perseverance, and daily repetition with your children. Everyone in the house must know and carry them out on a day-to-day basis; the agreements must be clear and transmit the house's rules. I recommend implementing strategies so that they creatively understand what is going to be done.
Change Your Strategy
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There must be tantrums at least once a day in which mother and child have a conflict. To avoid this, you must be firm in your words and be supported by your partner; remember you are a team. The child is waiting for the consequence, but you can remove it from its base to stop a tantrum. How to do it? Communicate the message with love, But you must also do something that they did not expect. If bath time is a fight, you can offer different alternatives. "Today we will bathe in a lake, do you want to go by boat or do you prefer to stay on the shore to play?" As soon as you change the strategy, the attitude will be different because he will face something that he did not expect.
Find a Different Environment
Listen to what your child is not telling you in words at the moment. A classic example is the bowl of soup on the floor at lunchtime; You must unplug yourself from anger because your child is the most important thing. Go over and tell him that when he's done throwing tantrums you're going to be in another room and you'll invite them to speak with you. Getaway, do your things, and when he is calm he will approach you. You must show that life goes on, but that there will be a consequence: "everyone will have finished eating when you return to the table".
Say Healing Words
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What is a simple problem for you is a real problem for them. At their young age, they need the bond of love and affection from mom and dad. The way you tell them things will make them change their attitude, and they will feel safe to address the problem. Also, play and encourage them, "I don't like getting up early to go to school, but I do it with joy because I'm going to learn new things" Put yourself in their shoes and express your feelings clearly. If your child is in danger, there is no strategy other than safeguarding their integrity; take it lovingly and firmly. If you are using one of these tools and the tantrum gets worse, change the strategy.
Bottom Line
Doing a job involving the whole family is building a wall to give the child containment and safety. Remember that limits give security and serve to drive. If there are limits from small to large you will be happy, because you know the containment and tools that helped you in childhood.
It is in your hands to help them control their emotions and feelings from an early age to not suffer in the future. Always visualize your child before you want to give in. How do you want it to be as an adult?
Translated and adapted by The Cop Cart Staff
Sources: Falicimo
